Why does Hashem give us pain?? we all like to go through life without any extra pains to carry on our back, why do we NEED the pain??
there are sooo many answers Im only telling one of the hundreds so keep looking and asking and finding out since there is soo much to know!!
Pain is really a gift from hashem:
We must always remember that any time you are in pain hashem is crying with you in your pain!! He is hugging you and holding you throughout the whole thing!!
Hashem is extra close to us when we feel like we cant anymore!! The only thing we could really could do when we are in pain is call out to Hashem cuz noone else can help us. OS we become closer to Hashem and we see him helping us so much more!!
LOOK FOR EVERY TIME SOMETHING GOOD HAPPENS AND SAY THANK YOU HASHEM I DONT DESERVE ANY OF THIS GOOD JUST CUZ YOU LOVE ME YOU ARE GIVING ME THIS GOOD!!! THE MORE YOU SAY THANK YOU TO HASHEM THE MORE HASHEM WILL GIVE YOU REASONS TO THANK HIM!!!
one more thing that may be hard to hear but we need to know this!!
pain erases our avieros that we do when we do avireos we think ok big deal i just did this small thing but when it comes to hashem he does not forget anything!! the pasuk says YISURIM MIMARKIM AVONOS SHEL ADAM !! pain erases aveiros the bigger the pain the moe aveiros you erase! Believe me you would so much rather get the pain in this world rather than the next bec here its bits and pieces and there its much more painful!!! since we have to pay for it no matter what!!
Rabbi ephraim waxman told my family after my brother was niftar that if you go through pain and you say HASHEM I ACCPEPT ALL THIS PAIN WITH LOVE!! ITS AS IF YOU FASTED 300 YRS OF FASTING!! (WOW YOU WILL LOOSE SO MUCH WEIGHT!!) THATS HOW HUGE IT IS TO GO THROUGH PAIN AND NOT BE ANGRY AT HASHEM!! EVEN IF YOU DONT FEEL IT STILL ITS A HUGE THING TO SAY IT!!
just to help you see where I am coming from I have had many difficult challenges in my life.
those of you who know me personally know my eye story in your sleep but for those who never heard it its a real strory that happened to me 2 yrs ago. Hashem almost took away my eye sight I almost became blind from the lense solution!! can you imagine the fright of almost loosing your eye sight in your right eye!!! I said to hashem either take my life or pls let me see I will not be able to make it through my life without my eye!! I begged and davened to the most loving father in heaven to pls have pure rachmanus on me and pls give me my eye sight!!
I was only able to see dots of grey white and pink i could not images or pictures only dots!!
you should never ever know of such a frightening moment!! i thought my life was over!!
i could not see my hand in front of me, i could not see the floor to my room.....
i rem. that Mrs. Minzer (aim habyis in seminary) told me that if ppl use their eyes in wrong way Hashem could send them back without eyes a second time!! so when i almost lost my eye sight i said Hashem pls let it erase all the bad that my eyes saw in the past!! pls erase those avieros!!
when i put the medicine into my eye i felt like i was putting sand into my eye, i started to scream''MOMMY ITS THE WRONG MEDICINE PLS TAKE IT OUT!!!!!!!" SHE SAID IM SO SORRY THIS IS THE RIGHT MED. FOR YOU!! I HAD TO PUT IT IN EVERY HOUR, I THOUGHT MY LIFE WAS GOING TO END FROM THIS PAIN!!
IT WAS SUCH A CRAZY LIFE LESSON FOR ME! I HAD TO PUT THIS INTO MY EYE EVEN THOUGH IT WAS SOOO PAINFUL THAT IS THE ONLY WAY I COULD GET BETTER!
IN LIFE HASHEM DOES THE SAME THING TO US HE GIVES US THINGS THAT WE DONT LIKE AND THAT IS THE ONLY MED. THAT COULD CURE YOU! ONLY HASHEM IN HIS INFINITE WISDOM CAN KNOW WHY YOU NEED THIS PAIN RIGHT NOW !!!
I went into my room and said," I know you are holding my hand through this extremely painful time. I will continue to praise you for all the people you sent into my life and i will daven for all those who are in soooo much pain!! "I cant thank you enough for giving me my eye sight for free!! i paid 3,000.00 for my eye!!! HOW MUCH DO YOU PAY?? NOTHING???? OH WOW YOU SEE HOW MUCH HASHEM GIVES NON STOP!!
if you trust in hashem and in the dark times you still love him, he will reward you!!
Guess what i saw the reward in front of my eyes!!!
my eye got better faster than the doctors ever expected!!
I WENT TO TEACH PPL ABT THE GREATNESS OF AMEN AND AT THE END THEY ALL DAVENED FOR ME!THE POWER OF AMEN IS SO GREAT IT OPENS UP ALL THE GATES OF SHAMAYIM AND IT SENDS DOWN ALL THE BRACHOS FOR YOU !! IT IS SOOO EASY TO DO AND I GOT TO SEE RESULTS SOO QUICKLY!!!right after everyone finished answering amen to each others brachos about 500 brachos. i felt diff. i thought maybe i was just imagining things!! when i came into the doctor he could not believe his eyes!!
the nurses were all standing around with mouths dropped open!!
if you trust in our creator our father and concentrate on all the things we ,well go much farther than we thought we could!!
we need to realize that Hashem is the only address that will fully be able to change your life for you!!
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you are so incredible! your words give us all so much strength!
ReplyDeleteI was just talking to my friend last night, prob just around the same time that you posted this message. One of the things we were talking about was feeling Hashem when you daven and really crying to him with dveikus. My friend, Yaffa Bas Tova Boleesa, shenikrait "Bonnie" has been experiencing a lot of physical pains in her body for years... and it's only been getting worse. (May she have a refua shelaima b'karov - Please daven!) She told me that she often has difficulty really davening the way she would like to. Somebody once told her that whenever she cries out of pain, she should use it to cry to Hashem and experience closeness with Him. She says that when she cries to the Ribbono Shel Olam during painful times, it makes her feel good inside that she is finally being able to daven like the way she wishes she could daven always.
ReplyDeleteThe conversation with my friend reinforced the ideas that:
Opportunities are disguised in the pain Hashem gives us. Instead of getting depressed about it, Hashem wants you to cry to Him and experience such closeness with you... He wants to develop a personal relationship with YOU!
We don't know the reason why we experience a specific challenge. It may be hard sometimes to open up your siddur, but there is nothing in the world like experiencing a closeness with Hashem.
When the goyim go through a hard time, even minor mishaps, they tear their hair out because there is no one human being that can solve all their problems. We are so lucky that when even somehting small seems to go wrong in our day, we can turn to Hashem and ask Him for siyata D'Shmaya and feel secure that we are in His tight embrace.
May you always feel the love of Hakadosh Baruch Hu and dveikus with Him.
This video shows a baal teshuva who found someone and marries her
ReplyDeleteLater, when they were trying to have a child, there was complications, but they get through it BH
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1r7140U_c78&feature=channel_page
Chaya Sara, its not normal amazing (Lol in a good way) its so inspirational. May Hashem continue giving you the strength to do all the good and continue helping everyone.YOUR AMAZING!!! Thanks a google! No words can possibly describe the appreciation i have torwards you!
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Chanie the Blondie
thank you for addressing this topic because i was/am thinking about this very thing. Any way from alot of expirance it is very true that we need to turn to Hashem even though it is hard. as i was reading this one incident came to mind. i was going through a very hard time and for about a few months i just started lacking off in making sure to daven mincha and if i missed it it didn't feel too bad as i was when i missed only a few months earlier. my sister in-law was expecting her first child after loosing one very dangerously so dangerous that after she had to bentch gomel and thank Hashem for saving her life. so i fought the Stan and davened like i hadn't davened in a long time i especially asked Hashem to give her and my brother a healthy baby. i was convinced after that davening that i was protected mean how can Hashem do something after a davening like that? Right? well Hashem thought otherwise and that evening my brother called me to tell me that my sister-in-law was in the hospital and was going to deliver asn the baby wasn't going to make it for whatever reason they had to take the baby out right away. i couldn't believe it after i davened like that and all that the fam. went through we were sure this was it we were finally getting bracha and then we get this news. However this time i told myself i am going to win and not the Satan i was with siatda D'ishma able to recignize that this was going to be a test and i wanted to win so i pick up my siddar by mincha the next day and davened so hard or then it felt gr8 i was in pain and was davening and it did really help i truly felt so close to Hashem and just wanted to make Him happy and proud of His daughter here! the point is that turning to Hashem while in pain shows victory that you won and i helps you feel GR8! and i'm saying this from expirance. so go and speak to Hashem in pain and everything else.. i hope thsi is not totally off the topic.
ReplyDeletehi its chaya sara i really want to thank you all so much for your warm comments.they really show the world that at every stage in life you must always believe that Hashem is with you. Not only in the chumash but every step you take he is by your side!! esp. when you are in pain, you must know the best address to call!
ReplyDeletethe coolest part of all this is that when you call out ot hashem you get a mitzva, and great reward!! i think its so worth it!!
HASHEM GIVES THE BEST TREATS FROM SHAMAYIM!!!
instead of taking you pakage and carrying it on your back and it waigh you down. Why don't you set it down and use it as a step, boost to help you get higher?
ReplyDeleteL'ilay Nishmas R' Yehrachmle Yisral Ben Shimin
i have a question. you know who ppl say Hashem gives challenges because he wasnts to get close to us. When i have a hard challenge to be comforting ppl say its because you are so special to Hashem and He loves you and wants to get really close to you- but that is not fair because why don't I have the right to say i rather be a little farther away from Hashem not be His favorite and have easier challenges. i know this is my Yatzr Hara talking but still i feel this way sorry its not inspirational feel free to take it off but im really having this question and i don't know who or where to ask it so i figured this is a safe place to do so.
ReplyDeleteyou are soo cute! i hear your pain! its so hard to know why hashem chooses ppl to have certain challenges while others sail through life... to be honest with you, i think in todays day and age everyone is going through their own pain! i dont believe there is a person around today that has not experienced real deep pain. If you think im wrong then you prob. dont know half of what is going own on in their lives!! to each person something else is hard maybe for you its no big deal, but for her its the hardest thing!
ReplyDeletethere are so many reasons why we go through pain.
i will only give you one small thought there is soooo much to know pls. keep asking, smarter ppl than me!!
for one i know that through my pain i have become so much more sensitive to others in pain.
if you fell down a flight of steps and someone came to pick you up and help you out. she sat you down and gave you a hug.... would'nt you feel like wow she is sooo sweet. i wish i could pay her back. so you ask her, "how can i pay you back for your kindness". she tells you, "you dont have to do anything for me, just the next time you see someone fall pls. help them up! this way you will rem. my kindness and use it to help another person."
now continue on a few days later you see someone at the bottom of the steps would you run and help her or just walk by and say oy! nebach i feel so bad for her??
of course you would come running over!!
only bec.you just went through this hard time can you
to be continued....
on taht last comment i can testify that whenever you have a hard time you want to help someone that is going through the same hard time as you no mstter how big or little the hard time is just like Chaya Sara said. so it was a few days ago and i was driving with my sister we were going to a mall the required no tolls but we missed oure exit and had to travle through many tolls we had lota of dallars on us and for some reason not sure why (o.k dah because Hashem wanted it to) i didn't have change on my usually i have- not exagerating 5 dollars worth of change, that my wallet always pops open because the snap can't shut. So im not sure where it all not went. Anyway back to the story. We drove through one toll i handed the laidy a dallar (one thing i 4got i didn't have my e-zpass because someone used my car and i never got it back which is so not the type just tto add to the Hashcah) and drove on. then i went to get off the next exit. When we exited we saw the strangest thing there was a toll but only two booths one for e-zpass and one for exact change. there was no red booth for the one with a person in it. oh no this is not good it was only 35 cents but, we couldn't find 35 cents, so we pulled over on the shoulder rumages we a penny here and there and then a dine we were still shy finally Hashem opened my eyes and we found another dine gr8 thank you hashem. we entered the town and turn to enter the hightway going the oppisit dierection. one problem before we get on the highway we needed anther 35 cants we didb't know what to do so we pulled over again and stared the serchwe really this time only had peenys we found 5, 9, 13 17,23,29,32, pennys only 3 more pennys to go but we couldn't find it anywhere we open every compartment in the car pocets i stuck out my hand to try and get somone it was only 3 pennys but it made a difference. i was calling only 3 putting upp my 3 fingers we saw stores should we walk and go in and get chnage, should we just go through and get a tiket we weren't scard in fact we were having a gr8 time we couldn't stop laughing at the sit. maybe we sould cover the plate with a peace of paper so they cant take a pick but, this is wrong. We started telling each other vorts diff things that we can learn from the sit ina zecus that we will get out of it, we said lets learn two halochos we really wnated to but, didn't have a book we said we will give money to sidakah and then i got out of the car to look in the trunk as I was looking a car behind me,pulled over. "finally i said" it was a man wearing i white stirt and black pants but, really he wasn't jewish whoops i aread aske dhim if he has 3 pennys he said no. so i said do u have cjhnge for a dollar heer said yes. we wee on our way home B'H!! As we weere driving we kept looking out the window for a car that was pulled over that we can help we saw one got so excited but then saw that it wasn't jewish and sice it was late at night it wouldn't be safe we so badly wanted to help. why because we just secands b4 went through the same thing and had the fair at the tip of our toung anyway the point we went through pain sort of and wanted to get anyother pereson out of it because we knew the feel this tands true for everythinga that we go through. thanks sorry it took so long to get to one line anyway one last thing. wether you asked for your pain or not or wanted it you have it so why waste it away use it for what its worth why its there to help others in the same sit. GOOD LUCK!!!
ReplyDeletetHANK YOU hSHEM FOR GETTING US HOME WITHOUT A HUGE BILL!!!!!!!
L'ily NISHMAS r' yEHRACHMLE Yisrale Ben Shimin ZT'L
SORRY FOR THE TYPOS
when you gat a chance can you write the five leavles of pain, that aton for our aviros? thanks
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