Sunday, June 19, 2011

Answers to our Tefillos

I wrote this a while ago and wanted to post it again for those who may not have read it and for those who want to reread it since we can always use a reminder...

We are now living in very difficult times. We all need personal yeshuos and refuos and it’s hard when we daven so hard and don’t see an answer.
First of all, we need to keep reminding ourselves who is in charge. No matter what situation we are in, we must keep remembering that no matter what, Hashem is in charge, He is running the show, He knows what is best for us and He can do anything at any time!! He can perform miracles - right in front of our eyes!
Just like He is the one who makes a person sick, He is the only one who can heal, not the doctors or anyone in the hospitals - only Hashem! He is the one who brings about every single shidduch, every single yeshuah and He runs the world!! And never underestimate the power of our tefillos.

Sometimes we daven for something and we don't see immediate results. In fact, this is not something that happens sometimes, it happens all the time! We daven and daven and beg and cry and we say to Hashem, "why?" or "when will you finally answer my tefillos?”
We expect that when we daven for something, since our tefillos are so powerful and pierce the heavens, we should get answered right away!
But this doesn't happen. It doesn't work that way.
R' Shimshon Pincus gives an amazing, down-to-earth mashal to explain this.
After you eat something very fattening, do you run to the mirror and say, "Ohmygosh! I gained weight!!"??
No! It doesn't work that way! It takes time!!!
Just like the second you eat, you will not see the extra pounds showing up when you look at your reflection in the mirror, you will not see immediate results as soon as you are done davening for someone or something - it takes time!!

When you daven for someone, your tefillah never goes to waste - if you don't see an answer, many times it's just that Hashem is saving the tefillah for another time when you least expect it, or didn't even deserve it, or didn't even daven for something - and then the yeshuah just "comes" and you wonder - "what did I do to deserve that?" It's because Hashem took out the tefillos that you davened that long time ago and uses it for a time when you need it most!!

Here’s a story I know personally that shows this point. When I was in elementary school, a girl in my grade had a family member that got sick with cancer. Everyone davened so hard for this girl’s sister. She was still young (just 19 years old) and had a whole life ahead of her. The family, the school, everyone was davening. And then…she passed away. It was so sad!

A few years later, Chaya Sara was walking with this girl’s sister (let’s name her Rivka, just for the story) and as they were crossing the street, a car turned in and hit Rivka. Her body went flying up and then fell down on the street with a thud. It was a very scary moment. Chaya Sara was totally fine, the car didn’t touch her, but the girl she was walking with was lying on the ground. Hatzalah was called and Rivka was brought to the hospital.

When her parents heard that their daughter was in a car accident, they thought, “We cannot lose another one!! Hashem, how much more do you think we can handle?! Please, please, do something to save us from any more pain!!”

Well, there was a real miracle. Rivka was brought to the emergency room and emerged without a scratch! She was totally fine!

Ask Chaya Sara if you want to know if this story really happened! She was there, walking with this girl when the accident happened!

So you see that sometimes, we may not see an answer to our tefillos right away, but Hashem saves those tefillos for when we least expect it and for when we need it most! The tefillos that everyone davened for Rivka’s sister were saved for her and she experienced a miracle!!

Let’s keep reminding ourselves that Hashem can do anything to anyone at anytime - He holds the power to heal, bring simcha and joy into our lives and He gives each person the strength they need to go thru life’s many difficult challenges.

You may want to read the comments on the original post - and for additional details of the story from Chaya Sara.


  1. I'm not sure why you decided to repost this but I know that Hashem was behind it. This is exactly what I needed right now. Exactly. And I so needed it. Thank you Devoiry (thank you Hashem)!! Do you know any other meshalim about how we don't see the big picture but Hashem is doing it all for our best?

  2. Tamar - thanks, I'm so glad I posted this again and it's just what you needed to hear. I love when that happens!!

    There's a mashal about the tapestry - when someone is sewing it, if you look from the bottom, it looks like a big mess and you can't see or understand the beauty of the big picture. However, if you sit up on top, you'll get to see a beautiful picture with details you never would have imagined when looking from below.

    I think the nimshal is pretty clear. When we are down here on this world, we don't understand the seemingly unclear, messy threads that are hanging from up above. But after 120 years, when I person goes up there, they can see with 100% clarity the beauty in the tapestry Hashem has sown!

    Hope that helps - let me know!

  3. I love that analogy. Thak you so much Devorah...I really needed to read this.

  4. SG-thanks so much for letting me know you needed to hear this just now! Glad to give the chizuk!!

  5. Praising G_d is a Reason to Live

    {1} Tanach / Bible, Tehillim / Psalms, chapter 6, verse 6:

    Because in death there is no remembrance of You; in the grave, who will praise You?

    {2} Tanach / Bible, Tehillim / Psalms, chapter 30, verse 10:

    What profit is there in my blood, that I go down to the slaughter?
    Will the dust praise You or recite Your truth?

    {3} Tanach / Bible, Tehillim / Psalms, chapter 115, verse 17:

    The dead will not praise G_d, and not those who go down to the grave.

    {4} Tanach / Bible, Tehillim / Psalms, chapter 118, verse 17:

    I will not die, because I will live and praise [literally, recite] the works of G_d.

    {5} Tanach / Bible, Tehillim / Psalms, chapter 119, verse 175:

    May my soul live that it might praise You...

    EXPLANATION: These words refer to G_d when they are capitalized in the middle or end of a sentence: You, Your, Mine, and His.


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