There's a poll on the right - so go ahead and vote...and soon I'll try to write a post or two on the topic so hopefully soon we will all gain appreciation and love for this special mitzvah!!
One more thing: Can you please leave a comment letting me know which things are hard for you in this area and what the reasons are that tznius may have a negative connotation for you. I would like to address this important mitzvah and it would help me if you can point out why it's so hard for you and what affects your thoughts and feelings towards tznius.
And if you think of tznius in a positive way, please let me know why. It would be great to hear what things you heard that are inspiring in this area and keep you going!
Thanks!!
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ohh tznius, now here's a controversial issue. my main issues are with tznius behaviour and overall demeanor. some people are born naturally more subdued and modest and others have more of a need to express themselves, whether it be due to neediness or nature. are we supposed to be tempering our personalities? and theres the concept of tznua babayit also so we can't say that even when its just all girls we can let our guard down... its a 24/7 middah.
ReplyDeletei feel that we are soo pressured to wear skirts that are... and its soo annoying!! we get yelled at for all the things we wear!!! its so strong and i dont know why i am tznius at all!! i get yelled at for all the things that i wear its too tight, too short, too open.. too loud... so what is good abt.that!! thank you soo much for allowing me a place where i can express myself and not get into trouble!! i really need ideas of how to understand how to live with a good feeling in my heart!
ReplyDeletei wish i would hear something nice about this topic that would atcually make me want to do it!!
ReplyDeletei feel that ppl stare at you and decide oh! she is...its soo much more cool and fun to wear outfits that are chilled out! why do i have to cover my body its soo annoying i feel if you got a nice body then why not show it off! everyone loves looking in the mirror and seeing hey i like my outfit! also they stress it all day it is sooo boring already i cant hear another thing about it!! unless its something good!! cuz i hear sooo much neg. stuff!! im just sharing what many others would want to share but they dont!
thanks for bringing up this topic its a good thing to disscuss!!
Anonymous 9:24- you said "why do i have to cover my body its soo annoying i feel if you got a nice body then why not show it off!"- I think you are 100% right and that's exactly why you should want to cover it up.you are a jewish girl, You have a nice body- it's for you (and your husband) and that's it. showing it off to the rest of the world on the streets is dong nothing except diminishing your self worth. You are a princess and should dress in a manner sufficiently dignified for a Princess.
ReplyDeleteplease help me out tell me what are the good things that will motivate me to want to do it!! i need help!!!
ReplyDeletei know the famous one you are a princess but come on its so repetitive again and again any other things to know i dont feel like a princess and it does not help me want more!! so if you could pls give me a motivation of why... thanks sooo much for taking from your time to do this for me!!
ReplyDeletewhy do i have to cover my knees i mean come on i love the way it looks... so many frum ppl dont really worry abt. it so why do i have to??
ReplyDeletewhy do they make such a big deal about knees and collar bone it seems toooooo strict for me!!
I don't wanna sound cheesy or all self rightous or anything but i have a positive, very positive att. toward tznius cuz it's good for me. I can't expainn it well, chaya sarah, is there a way for u to contact me. I wanna explain my thoughts and the source (teacher) who they're from without revealing too much bout myself here. or me to contact u? clicking on u to email opens outlook and that won't work.
ReplyDeleteWow - there are soo many parts to this topic! I didn't realize what I was getting into when I started this! :-)
ReplyDeleteFreeda, you can send Chaya Sara an email at csrishappy at yahoo dot com. We'd love to hear what your teacher said that inspired you to have such a positive attitude to wards this mitzvah!
I'll be in touch with her & we will work together to address the many different sides and issues you all have with this topic of tznius!
Chaya Sara always talks about the rewards for being tznius and how much bracha it brings to us. Chaya Sara can you please share it with all of us, or tell us the name of the book you always talk about and how it gives such a positive, warm feeling on tznius!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
The hardest part I guess is peer pressure, everyone else wears skirts that go up when they sit down, or tighter clothes and I feel like a neb without it - yes you're doing it for Hashem and the girls who care aren't for you blah blah but it matters to me
ReplyDeleteyea its definitly hard when u look in the mirror n like omg u look soooo good but its not tznius so instead of that hot dress u have to buy a really nebby outfit. no one likes looking like a neb! we wana look good ! but it seems that u either look good or u dress tznius
ReplyDeletei just started reading a book called "6 diaries" and its a book abt tznius w/ a whole new outlook the more open minded type u guys might wanna check it out it might provide the answers 2 ur qs and u begin to realize that most other girls in this world share in this challenge in their own unique personal way....
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