Everyone needs encouragement.
Don't you think it's true?
It's not that it's only true for the people who look like they could use an extra dose of positivity or for someone you pass in the hallway who you can tell is having a hard day just by looking at their facial expression.
Even those who are "high up" on the ladder, even those who look like they have everything going for them. These people specifically could use an extra boost.
I'll tell you how you can do it.
Give a sincere and honest compliment. "I like your necklace" is fine and so is "nice shoes" but something a little deeper can really make a difference to a person's day.
"It's such a pleasure to work with you. You are always so positive!"
"You are so dedicated to your job. What would we do without you?!"
"I'm so lucky to have a friend like you. You listen to me with your heart, especially when it's late at night and I have no one else to talk to."
If you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable to say these things to someone's face, you can always write them a letter or an email or send them a text message. It can really make their day!
Do you know that people who speak publicly really draw strength to continue from the feedback they get?
"The speech you ave really hit home. I specifically liked that story/point you said about _________. It really spoke to me and I'm going to do something about it."
Every person, no matter how great they seem or how confident they appear to be can gain from your positive words.
Give it a try! You'll make someone's day!
Sunday, May 8, 2011
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this is soo true..every person (espcially me..no matter wats goin on and how pumped up we seem)needs tonz of chizuk!
ReplyDeletemy teacher mrs kroizer spoke to our whole school in october of twelfth grade and made everyone put their heads down.
she said raise your hand if u can say that never once this year (since sept. a month ago!)was there a time that u did not feel left out or like u ddnt hav ur backup of friends or alone even amongst a crowd in school...wen we put our heads up she sed that out of the 150+ girls 2 raised their hands meaning..even the smartest most popular...girls who u think dont need ur good word..felt like they needed to be the ones who need to be included encouraged..it hit home bec in h.s. many girls are always thinking that they need to be included and encouraged that they are not important enough too make someone's day!but this proved not to be true!someone that makes you feel good:u love her.so try it!!
after that my friend in b.y.a. and i who both had this teacher decided to compliment but sincerely and thank our teachers after each lesson..it took courage and thinking and work but everyone wanted some of my secrets by the time sem came around..you make someone's day.there's nothing better!!
mrs z braunstein A"H was always blessing and encouraging ppl.she saw someone wealthy she sed hashem should shower them w brachos! she saw a little girl in camp(me!) she made sure to giv her a compliment!i remembr how she used to encourage my sister to use all her kochos and always tell her how importnt she is and wat an amazing job she did in teaching and in production..
let me just tell u that wen one (or two!) of my students come over to me at the end of a grueling day of teaching and tells me thank you for such a great day,lesson, story or for being the greatest teacher all i can say is im ready to hug the kid!u dont know wat a good word does. you donnnnt knw wat it does. you do nootttt knw wat it does!
i have a list of the world's best encouragers if anyone needs!!
So very very true! I so appreciate the encouragement you always send my way And I know I am not the only one who benefits from your wisdom and thoughtfulness. Thank you for all the good reminders. :)
ReplyDeleteYou are so right!
ReplyDeleteWhat wonderful advice! And it's really true. Another plus is that in addition to helping someone else feel better, you'll feel better, too!
ReplyDeleteCHAYAb, i read your comment on monday, and you should know i tryed to go over to all my teachers at the end of every period and sincerly say thank you and i told them s.t that i took out of the lession! i x know how much it meant to them untill i read your coment. so the zechus is yours!!!:)
ReplyDeleteYou are 100% right! EVERY SINGLE person needs encouragement. It doesn't matter who or where they are up to in life. Encouragement builds, motivates and keeps a person moving on to greater heights! Its a special feeling that just keeps you going!
ReplyDeleteCHAYAb-Thanks for sharing that! It's really so true, every single person needs to be acknowledged and this is even more so when they work hard for something! They want to hear that someone noticed that their work was worth something!
ReplyDeleteelle-I write every word because I mean it! You are a real inspiration and your journey gives me strength to appreciate my little challenges.
SiR- thanks.
Rivki-yup! It feels good to make others feel good about themselves!
It's strange that some other comments got deleted and I noticed that I'm not the only blogger who this has happened to so I'll repost and respond to them here.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous said...
CHAYAb, i read your comment on monday, and you should know i tryed to go over to all my teachers at the end of every period and sincerly say thank you and i told them s.t that i took out of the lession! i x know how much it meant to them untill i read your coment. so the zechus is yours!!!:)
smiley said...
You are 100% right! EVERY SINGLE person needs encouragement. It doesn't matter who or where they are up to in life. Encouragement builds, motivates and keeps a person moving on to greater heights! Its a special feeling that just keeps you going!
Anon-thank you for taking that comment to heart! Please continue to thank your teachers - I'm sure it means A LOT to them!!
smiley-yes, each word of encouragement really pushes the next person to keep going!! Thanks for all your comments and pushing me along on this blog...!