tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669597641513421106.post8809504601884428174..comments2024-03-03T21:23:24.175-05:00Comments on Inspire Yourself: Working on MiddosChaya Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13283921497721772312noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669597641513421106.post-46452663279720658882011-04-13T09:23:47.903-04:002011-04-13T09:23:47.903-04:00im glad you posted a blog on anger so alout of peo...im glad you posted a blog on anger so alout of people can see itEsther Tenzernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669597641513421106.post-65787489807915308372010-08-26T10:57:25.474-04:002010-08-26T10:57:25.474-04:00Anon-I'm not gonna say it's easy. It's...Anon-I'm not gonna say it's easy. It's very hard to keep quiet when someone else is yelling and you feel like you are bursting with something to say but you won't be heard anyway so what's the point in talking? <br /><br />Keep telling yourself that this will make you into a better person. This is how you will grow and become more tolerant.<br /><br />You should know that the reward for keeping quiet when someone else is yelling or embarrassing you is unimaginable! It cleanses your neshama and you will get a lot of schar! Tell yourself again and again "I can do it!" and you will. Take a deep breath and let the person vent...and when they are done you can try to start talking calmly and see if they will listen.<br /><br />I know it's hard but you can do it!<br /><br />Liat-I'm so glad you liked it!Devorahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09467731180285925143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669597641513421106.post-7330787195036462372010-08-25T18:48:50.035-04:002010-08-25T18:48:50.035-04:00thanx so much for putting this up!thanx so much for putting this up!liat knopfnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669597641513421106.post-2472620191385353282010-08-25T18:48:10.170-04:002010-08-25T18:48:10.170-04:00Devorah-
sometimes whenit does happen though-i rea...Devorah-<br />sometimes whenit does happen though-i realize that its a test but i STILL have a hard time answering back or doing the right thing its just so hard to keep it down when one person is screaming at another, how could the other not scream back-i mean how could the other make them selves heard if the one that was screaming in the first place doesnt stop?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669597641513421106.post-72384472096984642762010-08-25T15:15:13.454-04:002010-08-25T15:15:13.454-04:00Rivki-I don't remember who said that but it...Rivki-I don't remember who said that but it's something I've learned to. It definitely has some truth to it but it is not <i>always</i> the case. Sometimes people do things that rub the wrong way and you wish they did things differently but you can't change them, you can only change yourself!<br /><br />I love those 5 pointers. Thanks for writing them out! They are so good and I can see them being really helpful for me as well.Devorahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09467731180285925143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669597641513421106.post-8549108763897888892010-08-25T14:49:34.747-04:002010-08-25T14:49:34.747-04:00These are all great tips! Was it the Ba'al Sh...These are all great tips! Was it the Ba'al Shem Tov who said that the things which bother us in others are precisely the things we need to work on in ourselves? I find that to be true in my case. When I'm bothered by something, it's usually related to something within myself which I feel is lacking.<br /><br />Also, I had a Rebbetzin in seminary who gave me these five things to remember:<br />1. This is a custom-made situation designed for my growth<br />2. I can handle it<br />3. Check my expectations<br />4. Judge favorably<br />5. What do I want to do about it.<br /><br />When I remember to do these five steps, it really, really helpsRivki Silverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00773820619229821907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669597641513421106.post-39899958995362128412010-08-25T14:20:39.871-04:002010-08-25T14:20:39.871-04:00Anon-this is what I was trying to point out from t...Anon-this is what I was trying to point out from this post. People may do things that get you annoyed or nervous but you need to view it as a way for you to improve your middos and work on tolerating other people. Not all people are created the same way! Every person has their quirks and when someone does something that gets you nervous, you need to tell yourself that you can GROW from this situation and work on yourself! <br /><br />Try to let the things she does pass so that they don't bother you too much - this is how you can get past it: by telling yourself that everyone has their "things" and you probably do too. It is something small and should not affect you too much. Let it pass and don't dwell on the things that bother you. Instead, try to focus on the good things this person does or the things they are good at.Devorahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09467731180285925143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7669597641513421106.post-214273160278695932010-08-25T14:06:40.188-04:002010-08-25T14:06:40.188-04:00Thank you so much for putting this up! just one th...Thank you so much for putting this up! just one thing....if there is someone whos constantly nervous and gets others anoyed, yes you still do like them and can find many things you like abut them-but theuy still get you anoyed, and constantly frustrated-no?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com